Have you ever caught yourself thinking about an interaction with a family member, a friend or a colleague and wishing you could go back in time and do it differently?
I am sure you have. We all have done this and the more we go through these types of interactions and most importantly, through the afterthoughts process, the better equipped we are to deal with a similar one in the future. The secret is to be open to any learnings that come out of such interactions.
Some people are better at interacting with others, they are instinctively attuned to others and are naturally emotionally intelligent. But this does not mean that emotional intelligence (EI) is out of reach for the rest of us! The good news is that it can be learned, and used, to make your interactions more effective and meaningful.
EI is a concept that has been used a lot in the last 20 years. It has its fans and it has its critics. And despite its criticism, it appeals to a fair amount of individuals, especially within the corporate world. In fact, some believe that emotional intelligence is indispensable for leaders.
Why is it so important to be emotionally intelligent?
EI allows you to be aware of your emotions, to control them, to show empathy and to better handle your interpersonal relationships. Although the notion of EI is mostly used in a corporate and business context, the reality is that emotional intelligence is the base of any personal or professional success. I would say that if we manage to master it personally, then it would naturally transfer to every other aspect of our lives and positively impact them.
As you may have noticed, I am a fan of EI. If we want to be the best we can be, we need to learn how our actions, reactions and emotions affect not only ourselves but those around us. But where do we start?
The most important element in the journey to emotional intelligence is self-awareness
Self-awareness empowers us to think about how our actions impact the people we interact with and allows us to always make conscious decisions about how our reactions will affect them.
It requires us to step back and act only after we considered the best interests of everybody involved no matter how difficult this might be for us personally at first.
In his blog, Guest Coach Blogger Michael Wallace continues the discussion on self-awareness and EI and reminds us to accept our responsibility, go forward letting go of what we THINK is the best solution and concentrate on finding the best solution for the person in front of us.
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